Highly sensitive people are a gift to mankind. Although they are sometimes mistaken for being weak, they are actually very empathic and able to demonstrate a high degree understanding and care. Such individuals have a unique ability. They can resist a cold and indifferent society and remain as open and understanding as ever.
High sensitivity is caused by genetics
According to scientific research, high sensitivity is caused by genetics, in particular a highly sensitive nervous system. This makes the person very subtly perceive everything that is around her, and react more vividly and emotionally to it.
How do genes influence this? To do this, you need to understand such concepts as temperament and personality. Temperament is a set of innate features that determine how a person will see this world. This is a complex phenomenon that is literally woven into human DNA. Personality is what a person turns into under the influence of his temperament, life experience, value system, education and many other factors. Personality is the result of exposure to both external factors, and society, and behavior.
If you depict it visually, then the temperament resembles a blank canvas, while the personality chooses what it will paint on this canvas. At the same time, personality can change for various reasons, while temperament remains unchanged. Thus, high sensitivity is the result of how the temperament of a particular person manifests itself in his personality.
The brains of highly sensitive people are different
According to scientific research, the brains of highly sensitive people are able to process much more information coming from environment compared to those who do not have this trait. Such people see more and more figuratively, constantly create specific associations, and such people have a high level of intuition.
The brain of sensitive people perceives, evaluates, processes and synthesizes information constantly. That is why they seem so absorbed, tired and even absent-minded. Unlike other people, such individuals need more frequent rest.
How to learn to deal with high sensitivity?
Now that you understand the nature of this phenomenon, you can work out certain steps on the way to learning to live with high sensitivity. Here are some ideas and tips that will help you understand yourself or understand the people around you who have this feature:
- Being a sensitive person is not a curse. Accept and love yourself just the way you are.
- Allow yourself to show emotion. Don't hide everything you feel just so you don't stand out from the crowd.
- Learn to understand that the world really needs people like you. Sensitivity shows us that we are people, and keeps society from plunging into indifference, inertia and coldness.
- Give yourself time to rest. Highly sensitive people easily succumb to unreasonable anxiety, depression. Learn to see the moments when your emotional condition starts to reach high rates and you need to take a break.
- For a highly sensitive soul, loneliness can be one of the most valuable and positive things. Remember to just be alone with yourself sometimes.
In addition, people with high sensitivity are not only very kind and gentle, they are also able to very deeply understand and perceive the mood and emotions of the people they love. They know how to listen, hear, understand and really empathize, which undoubtedly refers to the best human qualities.
Conclusion
High sensitivity is not an indicator of weakness, but on the contrary, it shows that you are still not indifferent and cold, like most modern society. There is no shame in showing your emotions, because they are what make such people so unique and unrepeatable. Thanks to the existence of such personalities, our world still remains humane, warm and not indifferent.
What if any unfamiliar situation causes you great excitement? What if a half-hour buffet leads to an unbearable desire for privacy, as a "social hangover" inevitably sets in? Perhaps you are one of the orchid people.
Hypersensitivity
A bit of theory: the phenomenon of hypersensitivity was first described by Elaine Ayron, an American psychotherapist. Before her, all orchid people were mistakenly classified as either introverts or simply nervous or even neurotic people. Hypersensitivity has nothing to do with diseases and deviations! Of course, introversion is found in most orchid people, but there are also extroverts among them.
I will make a reservation that this is not a scientific work and I did not conduct research. What is written here is the result of observations of myself and others like me, and I was inspired by Elaine Ayron's book "The Hypersensitive Nature".
Who are these orchid people?
You can safely classify yourself as one of these 25% subtle natures if you have most of the following signs:
2. Caution and even slowness in making decisions
3. A tendency to deeply analyze one's actions and the events taking place around
4. Increased attention to subtle details and subtle trends
5. High susceptibility to the emotions of other people (high empathy, pity for the weaker), as well as avoidance of conflicts
6. Loss of concentration and confusion in a situation of assessment and observation by other people
7. Developed intuition, propensity for foresight
8. Right-brain thinking, good creativity
9. Introversion (about 70% of orchid people are introverts), avoidance of publicity and a wide range of communication
10. Propensity for constant learning, the desire for self-improvement
11. Increased vulnerability and a tendency to more pronounced physical discomfort, that is, they suffer more from pain, tolerate hunger worse
12. Higher susceptibility to drug treatment, caffeine
Now we will analyze in more detail the main features of orchid people, and how they manifest themselves at work, in communication with colleagues.
1. High susceptibility to external stimuli and strong excitability of the nervous system
Details:
Perhaps this is the most striking and defining feature of orchid people. If we take beads as a metaphorical image, then this feature is a thread, and all
the rest are beads, which without a thread could not make beads.
The reaction of highly sensitive people to any, even a minor stimulus, is stronger than most people. The reaction to unexpected and unfamiliar stimuli is especially strong. For example, the unexpected sound of breaking glass or someone's shout will make you shudder, gasp and your heart will beat strongly. Strong irritants completely stun you and cause a stupor reaction, a desire to retire as soon as possible. Therefore, orchid people, due to their increased emotionality, try to avoid:
Crowded traffic during rush hour
Meetings with large crowds
Buffets and noisy parties
Long noisy lines
Traffic jams (by the way, orchid people know better than others how to avoid traffic jams;)
Cause:
The nervous system of orchid people is tuned to a higher susceptibility to minor stimuli. This, in turn, implies a more detailed processing of information entering the brain. As a result, the overload of the nervous system is greater than in most people. From here - fatigue sets in faster, with strong irritants - fatigue is completely deafening.
Manifestation in the business environment:
Orchid people are extremely uncomfortable in large and noisy meetings. In order not to aggravate your internal tension and not to force
their heart beat even faster, prefer to remain silent. They definitely don't like open-space offices.
Of course, I don't like to work on weekends, but if you have to go out, the bonus is the opportunity to sit in an empty office with dimmed lights! My work is in full swing in such an environment!
2. Caution and slowness in making decisions.
Details:
Orchid people prefer to think through all the possible consequences of any action, which takes a lot of time. But their decisions are often successful,
because they were based on collecting a large number of facts and considering all possible options.
Cause:
Your brain is always striving for careful and deep processing of information, and this takes much more time.
Manifestation in the business environment:
Such people work on the principle of "measure seven times, cut once." A job in which you need to make decisions quickly causes the strongest
stress.
3. The tendency to constantly analyze their actions and the events taking place around them
Details:
Orchid people are prone to prolonged reflection and introspection. Surrounding it can be perceived as wandering in the clouds and counting crows;).
Constant internal dialogue can lead to absent-mindedness and some awkwardness in actions. But precisely because of this inner work
orchid people are more often endowed with worldly wisdom, they are more often reasonable and prudent in their actions, more often they become truly mature people.
Cause:
All the same tendency to constantly process incoming information.
Manifestation in the business environment:
When discussing some new information, an oversensitive employee may appear to have poor grasp of what is happening. But thanks to his penchant for analysis, he subsequently comes to an even deeper understanding of the details and nuances than others.
She herself noticed the following: when I learn something new in large quantities, there is confusion and chaos in my head. But I already know that the brain is semiconsciously processing what it has learned. And the next day or week (depending on the complexity of the task or information) comes SUCH clarity and understanding, which at first I never dreamed of! The expression "Morning is wiser than evening" is exactly about orchid people!
4. Increased attention to subtle details and trends
Details:
From a highly sensitive nature, you are more likely to hear the phrase "Something is wrong here ..." It is the orchid people who will be the first to pay attention to subtle changes in the usual course of things. Whether it will be a false alarm or the beginning of an impending disaster is already a matter of time. But in any case, it will be wise for other people to listen to them. Perhaps, when the tsunami approached in Thailand, the orchid people were the first to pay attention to the animals running away from the shore, and even more so did not rush to collect shells on the exposed shore before the arrival of a big wave ...
High susceptibility to minor stimuli is combined with increased attention to detail. The nervous system of orchid people, figuratively speaking, wears glasses with magnifying glasses: they help to see details better, but the incoming light from the lenses burns more. Nature has given us such lenses so that we can see the approaching danger in advance and warn our fellow tribesmen. A separate post on my website is devoted to the benefits of orchid people for the rest of the community.
Manifestation in the business environment:
You are the one who can alert your boss or your colleagues to a problem before it gets worse. You are the one who first notices the subtle
changes in the market and warn others about it. You may have a reputation for exaggerating danger all the time. But rather in you
appreciate this insight.
Majority characteristic features I tried to show people-orchids as advantages and strengths. Believe me, I was not afraid to go too far, since such people are rarely prone to inflated self-esteem, and such praises against them will not lead to narcissism.
About increased susceptibility, and how to live with it?
Today's article will be useful to all those who, when communicating with unpleasant person the head starts to hurt, who simply have tears from injustice and sad events, those who are hypersensitive to the weather, the people around them, world cataclysms, movies or books read, their own and other people's work, mutual misunderstanding, for any business or for recreation - in in general, life in all its manifestations.
Such hypersensitive people need to be able to follow certain rules and some limitations in perception, because otherwise there may simply not be enough internal resources, which go at a frightening rate to comprehend what worries them. And these resources are simply necessary for supersensitive people to quickly restore mental and physical strength, without which it is impossible to maintain normal relationships and perform elementary tasks.
Increased susceptibility has many positive aspects, which are visible to the surrounding naked eye: a hypersensitive person is attentive and responsive, as a rule, is engaged in creativity, he is caring and compassionate, and is able to give a lot to others emotionally. Such people are usually pleasant in communication, they quickly fall in love with themselves, they are not always in the center of the company, but almost certainly are its soul.
The other side of increased susceptibility is sudden mood swings, low work capacity, loneliness and apathy. Each personal loss is experienced very painfully, each break in relations is perceived as one's own death, such people very often idealize the objects of their sympathy, and then experience severe disappointment.
You should not fight with increased susceptibility, you need to come to terms with it and learn how to manage it in your personal interests, because sometimes it can be very difficult and even unbearable to live with it.
How to be?
Communicate with those who are attractive and interesting to you, from the rest, if necessary, put up mental barriers, you can also visualize a wall between yourself and inappropriate interlocutors with the feeling that you are safe and nothing bad will pass through the wall.
Learn to step back from unnecessary emotions and experiences - this is a great way that will suit people with increased susceptibility. If you have already let something superfluous into yourself that carries negativity, try not to get involved in this state, follow it as if from the outside, wondering where it could come from, and deciding for yourself not to live this negative emotion. After some time, it will pass by itself, having lost your attention.
It is very important to find ways to free yourself from unnecessary worries. As a sewer, to drain unnecessary and harmful emotions, creativity is perfect, or physical training, in general, favorite hobby, everyone can have their own.
And, at least sometimes, arrange for yourself a time of partial or complete isolation. If you understand that you no longer have the strength to let all this negativity through you, turn off your phone and other means of communication, and try to close yourself at home with an interesting book, or take care of household chores, go to the forest and enjoy loneliness and silence, where you can bring your thoughts in order and restore strength.
In this article, I will offer several ways to distract yourself from negative thoughts. To some they will seem simple and familiar, but I hope someone will take them into service and it will become a little easier for him to live.
What torments you today will bother you in two days, a week, a month, a year? Maybe it's an ordinary trifle that you will forget in a couple of days? If your thoughts are occupied with some trifle, throw it out of your head without regret and go do more useful things.
Think about the worst outcome of the situation. Imagine the real situation in detail, detail the “tragic end” as much as possible. What happens if you don't stop worrying? It's no secret that all diseases are caused by nerves. You can easily get sick, or a chronic disease can worsen - this often happens with hyper-responsible workaholics. Believe me, your favorite job, which you are so worried about, will not put you on your feet, and no one will appreciate your dedication.
If you can’t influence the outcome of the situation in any way, humble yourself, calm down and get distracted. No one will be relieved of your suffering, so do something useful: clean up, go to the gym, go to the movies or go for a walk with friends.
If you are constantly nervous about what might happen in the future, then you are unlikely to enjoy the present. But what if this future does not come, if the problem resolves itself, some circumstances change, etc.? It turns out that you were wasting precious time on empty thoughts. Wouldn't it be better to live for today and do more pleasant and useful things?
With whom you lead, from that you will gain. I hope that in your environment there are people from whom you can learn frivolity and a simple attitude to life. Learn from such friends: they never "wind up" themselves, do not suffer from long reflections, but simply live and take all the events in life for granted. Perhaps this is the secret of true happiness?
Hypersensitivity
Hyperesthesia significantly expands the perception of the world and sharpens sensitivity. Such people are hypersensitive to light, sound, heat, cold and, especially, to excessive excitement. Often, for no apparent reason, they can scream: “Yes, turn off this TV! Nothing to watch!" Or: “Can someone close the window?”
Due to the subtlety of feelings, a person with hyperesthesia captures a lot of details, usually not noticeable to others. Tears of emotion can often be seen in their eyes, they quickly become irritated in stressful situations and, at the slightest injustice, rush into battle. They are sensitive to the tone, words, facial expressions, and gestures of the speaker. Because of this, they need clarifications. In their understanding, one word is not always synonymous with another, because each has its own shades. That is why they so often find fault with words.
People with hyperesthesia are very touchy, they are easily offended by any criticism, reproaches, ridicule, and if the interlocutor has some kind of ulterior motive, they will instinctively guess it.
It is very unpleasant when you receive a lot of information and at the same time come across a misunderstanding of loved ones who did not notice this. “No, you’re making everything up!” is the most common and offensive phrase that ultra-efficient people often hear as soon as they begin to share their impressions with someone.
The level of their interests, the quality of attention and the ability to feel involved in the world around them are directly proportional to their hyperesthesia.
In one interview, Amélie Nothombe explained to an intrigued journalist that she felt guilty for every catastrophe happening in the world. “As soon as there is an earthquake, war or famine, I get the impression that it is because of me, that it is also my fault.”
That is, any information deeply touches people with a super-efficient mind, because they feel part of existing world. Like Amelie Nothombe, super-efficient people often take responsibility for everything bad that happens in the world, and also reproach themselves for being passive. As we will learn later, the thoughts of the super efficient are controlled by the right hemisphere. It is known that the right hemisphere is responsible for emotions and feelings. It can even be said that all information passes through the soul before reaching the brain. And if so, it is almost impossible to remain rational and cold. Emotions sweep over sensitive people like a sudden storm. Their mood is constantly changing, as if they are rushing on a roller coaster: sometimes they are overwhelmed by bouts of anger and rage, then there is a feeling of anxiety, then depression suddenly rolls over. But in the same way, they can be inspired, take off on a wave of euphoria and feel unspeakable joy.
This hypersensitivity creates many problems. To the feeling of one's own helplessness when it is necessary to control the situation, a misunderstanding of one's own mechanisms and disapproval from others is added. Because in our society, sensitive and emotional people are often considered weak, immature and impulsive, and therefore naive, stupid and reckless. Psychology immediately put a label on them, calling them "people in the borderline state."
If you belong to this group of people, sensitive and emotional, then you know all this very well! People around you constantly read morals to you and grumble, as if they were small children: “It's just stupid to cry or be indignant because of such nonsense. You don't have to take everything to heart. You have to be more flexible." In general, if you listen to these lectures, criticisms and advice, which are endlessly poured out on hypersensitive people, you might think that in any life situation one must remain indifferent, indifferent and insensible. So, is this the only solution to the problem?
Until quite recently, it was thought so. Only rational thinking, logic and dispassion were accepted as correct and reasonable. Emotions, on the other hand, were considered our enemies: they confuse and prevent us from making the right decision. Fortunately, recently a different opinion has appeared: we began to notice that emotions occupy an important place in the process of thinking and in decision-making. It is now customary to use the term EC (emotional quotient) to refer to this emotional mind. This EC shows the ability of the individual to control their impulses, individual motivation, empathy and the ability to find mutual understanding with other people. The super-efficient have a huge emotional potential, it not only fills them, but overflows, and they still do not know how to use it.
Of course, hypersensitive people, constantly being judged, criticized and forced to be ashamed of themselves, have the most unfavorable opinion of themselves. In the meantime, let's try to imagine a world devoid of this hypersensitivity. No creativity, no empathy, no humor. The population, rational and able to exercise self-control, lives without the slightest warm human feelings. What will happen to humanity that is not able to resent, rebel and, most importantly, fall into enthusiasm, even stupid, but so contagious? Hypersensitivity is the real shadow power. Hypersensitivity is part of everything. If you are hypersensitive, then you are probably benevolent, altruistic and very cordial with those with whom you associate. But in relation to yourself, you are demanding and at any moment are ready to back down and laugh at yourself. The strength of your mind is openness, curiosity, sense of humor and innocence, lively and creative. And finally, your sense of fairness, directness, integrity and sincerity are second to none. The sooner you accept yourself for who you are, the better you will be able to use this incredible sensitivity. Because the key to using your own EC effectively is knowing yourself. As you understand yourself, you will understand and come to terms with your emotional storms. Your emotions will become your friends and guides.
This text is an introductory piece.When I was in kindergarten, a boy in my group threw my favorite book off the balcony,” says 20-year-old Anna. “I remember crying terribly—not because of the book, but because I hated that boy.” main feature hypersensitivity - strong emotions that can arise due to the most insignificant reasons.
Some of us are just more acutely aware of everything that happens to them, and this is not necessarily a bad thing. According to psychologist Elaine Aron, there are approximately 20% of hypersensitive people (hypersensitives) in society. This means that one or more of your acquaintances, friends or relatives, most likely, belongs to their number.
Here's what to remember when dealing with hypersensitives. Elaine Eyron is a psychologist and author of The Hypersensitive Nature. How to succeed in a crazy world” (Azbuka-Atticus, 2014).
1. THEY CRY A LOT
Hypersensitive people may cry when they are happy, sad, or irritated. This does not mean that they are bad. They just experience everything that happens to them very intensely, and tears help emotional release.
2. THEY ARE NOT NEEDED TO BE INTROVERTED
Introversion can go hand in hand with hypersensitivity, but this is not always the case. In fact, as Elaine Ayron discovered, 30% of hypersensitive people are extroverts. Often they require even more attention because they find it difficult to regulate their emotional state, they are more dependent on others and may experience a kind of intoxication from impressions.
3. THEY ARE NERVOUS WHEN THEY NEED TO MAKE A DECISION
The ability to quickly and confidently make decisions is not the strongest feature of hypersensitivity. Even when it comes to such banal things as choosing a cafe for lunch. The reason is that they are very afraid of making the wrong choice: suddenly the food in the cafe will be too expensive, the music will be too loud, the waiters will ignore them, and their companion will not like it there.
4. THEY REACT TO THE SMALLEST CHANGE
“If you are used to ending messages with a smiley, but this time you put an end to it, be sure: we will definitely note this,” Anna says. “And we’ll probably start to get nervous.” Hypersensitives tend to be very sensitive to what's going on in their environment and instantly notice when things aren't going their way.
5. THEY ARE ALWAYS LISTENING
If you need a friendly shoulder, feel free to contact them. Hypersensitives can make small talk, but they do best in the role of an attentive listener. You can be sure that they will not interrupt you, will not become distracted and change the subject.
6. THEY HATE NOISE AND LOUD SOUNDS
A high-speed train, car horns, overly sociable colleagues ... All this not only annoys us - we suffer, as if every sound is driven into our heads with a hammer. According to Elaine Ayron, it's all about the reduced threshold of sensitivity, because of which any stimulus is felt more strongly.
7. THEIR WORK HABITS ARE VERY UNUSUAL
The ideal option is to work at home or in any quiet place. This allows you to focus and keep your nerves in order. “Hypersensitivity people are able to take advantage of their ability to observe,” says Elaine Ayron. “They have a knack for thinking about ideas and then presenting them in a way that will be taken seriously.” Their analytical skills and attentiveness to other people's comments make them excellent teammates (as long as they are not put in charge of making major decisions).
8. THEY DO NOT LIKE TO TICKLE
A horror movie or a thriller is not the best choice if you want to invite a hypersensitive person to the cinema. The tendency to empathize, combined with an increased susceptibility to emotionally charged images, can cause shock in them.
9. They don't take criticism well.
Avoiding anything that can cause too much excitement, distinguishing feature hypersensitives. As a result, they try to do everything possible so that they themselves do not hurt the feelings of others and not cause their displeasure.
10. THEY TAKE EVERYTHING TO HEART
When communicating with hypersensitives, avoid ridicule. Of course, they themselves can love good jokes and try to relate to life with humor, but even the hint that something may be wrong with them makes them nervous.
11. THEY ARE VERY SENSITIVE TO PAIN
Pain is also a kind of stimulation. Not surprisingly, hypersensitives perceive it more acutely. Elaine Ayron's research has confirmed that hypersensitive people have a low pain threshold, and the expectation of pain (for example, in the dentist's office) can make you feel pain even when no one touches them.
12. THEY DREAM OF DEEP RELATIONSHIPS
Hypersensitives find it difficult to make new acquaintances. The stress of uncertainty, the expectation of possible awkwardness, the painful guessing of what the interlocutor is thinking, all this tires them. Hypersensitive people tend to find a reliable, empathetic partner with whom they can relax and who they can completely trust.
13. THEY CAN'T CHANGE IT IN THEM
Hypersensitivity is not just a whim or a lack of character. Elaine Eyron found that areas of the brain associated with empathy and cognition in hypersensitive people become more aroused when they are shown photos of a face with traces of strong emotions. In other words, this behavior is biologically programmed.
If there is an oversensitive person in your environment, try to be sensitive to him. Most likely, he himself understands his own characteristics well, therefore he behaves carefully and considerately. But he expects understanding from you too.
Do you feel like your reactions to things are stronger than others? Are you worried about how other people feel? Do you prefer quiet rather than chaotic environments?
If the above applies to you, then you may be very sensitive. The personality trait - which was first researched by Elaine A. Aron, Ph.D. in the early 1990s - is relatively common, in about one in five people. Aron has written many writings and books on over-sensitivity, including such as "Very Sensitive People", also developed a test () that will help you determine if you are a very sensitive person.
Although the recent interest in introversion—driven largely by broad profile publications about the subject, including Susan Cain's book The Silence—has brought more interest in personality traits than less stimulation and more sensitivity, Aron has observed that highly sensitive people still tend to generally considered a "minority".
But "minority" doesn't mean it's a bad thing - in fact, a very sensitive person combines many positive characteristics. The following are some of the common traits common to all sensitive people.
1. Their feelings are deeper
One of the hallmarks of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel deeper than their less sensitive peers. "They like to take things at a deep level," Ted Zeff, Ph.D., author of The Sensitive People's Survival Guide and other books about highly sensitive people, says HuffPost. "They are very intuitive and can go a lot further to figure things out."
2. They are more emotionally responsive
Very sensitive people react more strongly to the situation. For example, they will be more empathetic and care about a friend's problems, says Aron. They may also care more about other people who are victims of negative actions.
3. They are used to hearing: “Don’t take everything so personally” or “Why are you so sensitive?”
Depending on the culture, sensitivity may be perceived as a valuable asset or negative trait, explains Zeff. In some of his studies, Zeff says that highly sensitive men from different countries The men he worked with - such as Thailand and India - were rarely or never teased, while North American men were often or always teased. "So many of them are very cultured - the same person who said, 'in certain cultures, it's considered a valuable asset.'
4. They are used to working alone
Highly sensitive people tend to avoid being on a sports team where there is a sense that everyone is constantly watching. actions of another Zeff says. In his research, the majority of highly sensitive people interviewed prefer individual sports - biking, running, hiking - rather than group sports. It's not a generally accepted rule, though - some very sensitive people have had parents who taught them that it would be easier for them to become a member of a group sport, says Zeff.
5. They take longer to make decisions.
Highly sensitive people are more knowledgeable and granular in their decision making, Aron says. Even if it’s not a “right” or “wrong” decision—it’s impossible to pick the “wrong” flavor of ice cream, for example—highly sensitive people will tend to take longer to choose because they weigh every possible outcome.” Aron advises: "Think as long as the situation allows, and ask for more time if you need it," she wrote in a recent issue of the Comfort Zone newsletter. “During this time, try to claim a minute, an hour, a day, or even a week that will get you on the right track. What is it like? Often, on the other side of the decision, things look different, and this gives you a chance to more vividly imagine that you are already there. One exception: One day a very sensitive person comes to the conclusion that in this situation this is the right decision, and in another situation this is the right decision, and in the future he or she will quickly make these decisions.
6. They are more frustrated if they make "bad" or "wrong" decisions.
Can you imagine how you feel when you make the wrong decision? For highly sensitive people, "these emotions are heightened because they are more emotionally active" explains Aaron.
7. They are extremely attentive to detail.
Very sensitive people are the first to notice the details in the room, the new shoes you put on, or changes in the weather.
8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.
About 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts. referring to Aaron. He explains that many times highly sensitive people who were also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community - whether it was a dead end, a small town, or with a parent who worked as a priest or rabbi - and interacted with a large number of people in this way.
9. They work well as a team.
Because highly sensitive people are deep thinkers, they are valuable employees and team members. says Aron. However, they are well suited to those command positions where you do not need to make the final decision. For example, if a highly sensitive person is part of the medical team, he or she is valuable in analyzing the pros and cons of the patient being operated on, until someone else ultimately decides whether the patient needs surgery.
10. They are most prone to anxiety or depression (but only if there have been a lot of negative experiences in the past)
“If you have enough bad experiences, especially in your early life, you don’t feel safe in the world or you don’t feel secure at home…or at school, your nervous system too "anxious," says Aaron. But needless to say, all highly sensitive people will continue to worry - having a supportive environment can go a long way towards being protected from all of this. Parents of highly sensitive children especially need to "understand that these are truly great kids, but they need to be kept on the right track," says Aron. “You can overprotect them, but you must not underprotect them. You have to titrate them when they are young so they feel confident and feel good.”
11. Annoying sound further irritates a very sensitive person.
It's hard to say that someone is a fan of annoying sound, but very sensitive people are even more sensitive to chaos and noise. That's why they tend to be more depressed about being too active, Aron says.
12. Violent movies are the worst
Because very sensitive people sympathize even more and get annoyed even faster. Violent films or horror films are not their forte, Aron says.
13. They are easier to make cry.
That's why it's important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in a situation where they don't feel upset or somehow "wrong" to cry easily, Zeff says. If their friends and family are aware that it's easy - that they can easily be made to cry - and support this form of expression, then "lightly crying" will not be seen as something shameful.
14. They have good manners
Very sensitive people are also very conscientious people, as Aaron says. Therefore, they are likely to be attentive and have good manners - and always notice unscrupulous people. For example, a highly sensitive person may be more aware of where their shopping cart is in the store - not because they are afraid someone might steal something from there, but because they don't want their cart to get in the way of someone else. .
15. For very sensitive people, the consequences of criticism are greatly amplified.
Highly sensitive people have a response to criticism that is more intense the less sensitive the person is. As a result, they may use certain tactics to avoid criticism, including flatterers (so that no one criticizes them), by criticizing themselves first, and avoiding sources of criticism, Aron says.
People can say something negative, [and] a non-HSP (highly sensitive person) can say “Never mind” and not respond to them, Zeff says. But HPS will feel it very deeply.
16. Cabinets = good. Open offices = bad
Since highly sensitive people prefer to work alone, they also prefer a solitary work environment. Zeff says many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the incentives of their work environment. Those who don't have the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), Zeff notes that highly sensitive people can enjoy working in an office - where they have more privacy and less noise - than in open offices.